As NYT author Alex Williams writes, “In your 30s and 40s, plenty of new people enter your life, through work, children’s play dates and, of course, Facebook. But actual close friends — the kind you make in college, the kind you call in a crisis — those are in shorter supply.”
Williams continues, citing that as we age, it becomes more difficult to “meet the three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other” quoting, Rebecca G. Adams, a professor of sociology and gerontology at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro.
So now we know the secret ingredients to long-lasting friendship, but how do we orchestrate all of that? As FIERCE women, we’re not letting barriers stand in our way! It may be harder to find ourselves in physical closeness to new friends or repeatedly running into each other unplanned, or even in the headspace or physical space to have meaningful and honest conversations, but not impossible.